Learning is something that we can do by going to school, watching a YouTube “How To” video, or…just living. Ollie has taught me, daily, that we don’t all see things the same or do things in the same way–and there’s not a darn thing wrong with that. 🙂
A few years ago, we were going back and forth to Seattle for a medical procedure that Ollie had to undergo. There will be plenty of time for posts on that, but I wanted to share this from that time, and remind myself to stay teachable.
I am learning that in the eyes of someone who had autism, things that don’t make sense, will never make sense. Today, not having crepes at the Continental Breakfast did not make sense to Ollie. They are French. France is in Europe. Europe is a Continent. 🙂 I do agree with him. So I said, ” Right?! What’s so Continental about Fruit Loops? 😉 “
However, after being up last night with a feverish daughter who needed me as well, I was a bit impatient…so I told him that monkeys eat bananas, and they live on other continents, and besides HE’s a monkey too, so…just…eat….something! Well, he failed to get my joke and a bit of a meltdown took place. I started to explain to onlookers but realized I have yet to be able to NOT say “I’m sorry” before I say “My son is autistic.”
My son needs no apology, no explanation and certainly no justification coming from me. He will learn to adapt on this strange planet by realizing certain things are frowned upon, and not just because mommy says so. I am not sorry for my son or about my son. He is amazing. He understands far more than a lot of adults (myself included) and has taught me far, far, more about bravery and positive attitude than I could ever teach him.