My son, Ollie, staring out at the Pacific Ocean, fog blurring the junctures of water, land, and sky.  This is it.  This is how he might describe his world.  I say might, because he has never actually used those words to describe what it is like to be autistic.  Those are the words that I chose.  I […]

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Can’t you see…I’m thinking?

I think every parent has the ability to “fine tune” what noises they hear as they raise their children. Perhaps it is a certain whine, or maybe it’s a high-pitched giggle or the sing-song sound that goes hand in hand with someone about to tattle on their sibling… “Maaaaw—ommmmm, Timmy is eating saaaa-aannd again!” Whatever […]

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The Feels (the echolalia blues)

I remember welling up the first time I heard Ollie say “Aw, I just love you!” That sentence turned my world on its ear. All this time, I had thought that being autistic meant that feelings of love were muted, that my child was incapable of experiencing that kind of emotion. Yet, here, at 4 […]

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Mama Done Lost Her Mind

Happy 4th of July!! I know a lot of us struggle with the noise this time of year. I still have the Thomas the Tank Engine theme song blaring in my head from when I played it full blast for three hours on a 4th of July many years ago. Ollie does much better with […]

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How Did You Do That?

I do not think I will ever grow tired of discovering the things that Ollie loves to do. He sees the world in such a different way than I do. My mind is off in 50 different directions at any given moment, while his…well let’s just say he is a “one thing at a time” […]

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Through His Eyes

Learning is something that we can do by going to school, watching a YouTube “How To” video, or…just living. Ollie has taught me, daily, that we don’t all see things the same or do things in the same way–and there’s not a darn thing wrong with that. 🙂 A few years ago, we were going […]

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When mom doesn’t have an answer (or exactly how long it takes to preheat an oven to 400)

I don’t know everything. I know, I know, it shocked me too!! 😉 “When, exactly, is dad coming to pick me up?” “When are we leaving?” “When will the oven be ready?” and the infamous: “Why do I have to wear a helmet?” I have to keep telling myself: Concrete. Concrete. Concrete. Poor Ollie has […]

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Tough Love is Tough

This is post I made few years back…the incident I wrote about made such a huge, huge, impact on our family, and I wanted to share this with other parents that are at their wit’s end. I’m not saying this is the only solution, I am saying that there are more options for us than […]

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